Number Three

Number Three

I really didn’t want to blog about this. I imagined people thinking, “doesn’t she have enough babies?” and, worse, that it might be selfish to keep getting pregnant if I’m prone to miscarriages. Do people think that? Either way, here I am: writing about my third consecutive miscarriage. We weren’t trying to get pregnant. But for as terrible I am at keeping a pregnancy, we are really good at getting pregnant. I suspected that I might be pregnant weeks before the…

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Forever Ours! And Our Letter to The Boys’ Birth Mom

Forever Ours! And Our Letter to The Boys’ Birth Mom

The boys are ours!!! We finalized our adoption of Henry and Jack today! Happy adoption day, my boys! I can’t begin to express how awesome it feels to know they’re really really really ours. They’ve been our sons since we first met them in August, but having a judge tell us that they are as legally ours as Clara is just makes us feel so at ease. And no more social workers or home studies or adoption lawyers or paperwork! (Although we…

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Three Things That Have Surprised Me Since Adopting Twins

Three Things That Have Surprised Me Since Adopting Twins

Adoption— the journey to adopt, the process of adopting and the lifelong navigation of post-adoption— is complex. Every single day my ideas about adoption are changing— they’ve (thank Jesus) shifted from a me-centered mindset to one that (strives to) focus 100% on what’s best for the boys— and also, in many aspects, their birth mother. I’m by no means an adoption expert. And I’m definitely not a perfect adoptive mom. But since I am obviously an adoptive parent, I’m doing my…

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And then three grew to FIVE!

And then three grew to FIVE!

In absolute perfect timing, our family has grown by two. The past three weeks have been such a an exciting whirlwind, and the amazing story of how our two boys joined our family is still so unreal to me! Here’s a look at our adoption timeline: 5/26/16: Application for adoption submitted 8/2/16: Home study started 8/18/16: Babies born 8/19/16: Found out about babies through a Facebook post. We knew some of the medical issues, other concerns and basic information… but little…

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4 Misconceptions About Adoption

4 Misconceptions About Adoption

We’ve come across so many misconceptions about adoption since first deciding to start the process earlier this year. Honestly, many of these were things we believed, too. Richard’s mom and uncle were adopted and I grew up with foster kids in our home for a time, but we still knew so little. After hours of training, reading and talking to both birth moms and adoptive families, we’ve learned a few things about what adoption looks like in 2016… though we still…

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Blogging Infertility

Blogging Infertility

Blogging is raw, personal and permanent. So I have no idea why I’m reopening my blog (which left off with me perfectly healthy, pregnant and running a freaking MARATHON) to talk about my infertility and loss (and all the other stuff like life and adoption, but let’s start off with bang here). I’m not blogging to be the voice of miscarriage, because the battle is so personal and complex. I’m not blogging to be a voice of support, because I…

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