Negative comments: most of us have gotten them or heard of them. They’re usually anonymous, mostly mean and almost always factually incorrect.
I’d lie if I said I haven’t been phased by them. The more people reading this blog, the more hurtful comments and posts about me on popular anonymous forums appear.
I’ve cried to my husband and cried to my friends. “If they just met me in person I bet we could be friends!” I think the anonymity hurts the most.
Today I consulted a different source and my perspective changed entirely:
“…Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either. Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them…” -Luke 6:27-36
If you’re dealing with someone that brings you down online, at work or in your personal life, try changing your perspective. Before getting defensive or angry or anything else, try love first. Love when it’s the last thing you want to do.
And then get back to living and loving your awesome life.
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I really think if you don’t want to get negative comments then you have to remove the comment section of your blog. If you think you are beyond the criticism of others then you will never be happy if it remains.
In the real world our friends sugar coat the truth but still, I would hope, tell us the truth when we need to hear it. On the internet comments are usually dipped in barbed wire and hurled at your head. It doesn’t however mean that they are not valid. Perhaps if you are getting lots of negative comments about the same thing, and not just random snipes at how you look, sound or dress, then maybe people just feel very strongly that you are wrong. If you don’t want to hear that, like I said, remove the comment section and don’t read negative websites. You are in charge of your own world – stop whining.
I was actually just about to post something similar to this. Ashley, I mean this in a kind way (really) — if you don’t want to get any “negative” comments or hear from anyone who might disagree with you, maybe disabling the comments would be the best route to take. Or perhaps you could have a disclaimer in your “Meet Ashley” section, or at the end of your posts, that says something like, “I will only approve positive comments; please take any negativity or differing opinions elsewhere.” Just a thought!
However, I DO think differing opinions and thoughts make a blog better. You and I may have a different idea of what “negative” means, but I feel like the majority of your comments are respectful and kind. Many of them (like this one) will be anonymous because not all of us have blogs.
I hope you find a happy place in all of this. Best of luck!
Whoops — I meant my comment to be in reply to Caitlin!
Unfortunately, some people use the internet to be mean to others and post negativity. Like I said on FB, just ignore them and don’t approve those comments. You should be able to make it so you have to approve all comments. It’s sad that you’d have to go that route, but it might help things. I know you’re blog posts are great in the eyes of a lot of fellow fitness lovers/vegans, so just keep doing what you’re doing!
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Jesus says it best. Hang in there, it is amazing what words can do to you. The toungue is a fire, no man can tame it.
Hi Ashley,
I am just catching up on your blog… I can’t imagine who could possibly have anything negative to say about you or your blog, but if they really are being negative, then I don’t think they are really people you would want to be friends with in real life anyway.
Hope you are having a good Friday!
~Emily~
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Love that picture of you! beautiful my dear! You are amazing my dear! And the haters can suck it!
<3
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haters are gonna hate.
me and you though? we’d totally be pals if we met! (after all we both love running and lululemon….what more is there to life
kidding!)
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those haters will broadcast your failure, but whisper your success.
A person hates you for 1 of 3 reasons. 1) They want to be you. 2) They hate themselves. 3) They see you as a threat.
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