Forget living like you’re dying- live like you’re having a baby!
I may complain about constipation and admit that I don’t feel connected to my baby yet, but the truth is that pregnancy has already changed my life in more positive ways than anything else.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
I love being around kids because they bring you back to the basics of life: they play in the rain, laugh a lot and don’t sweat the small stuff (unless they’re toddlers). I want to embrace every moment of being pregnant and adding to our family so I’ve evaluated the things clogging up my life. We cancelled our hulu account and, since we never had cable, are finding more time at night to put on music and simply talk.
I avoid always having technology around me. A few weeks ago I had the most amazing moment, all because I had my eyes open. So many blue birds travel through our back yard and I love them. One tired afternoon I paused my chores to rest on the bed and look out the window. There’s a tree right outside the window and it was moving so gracefully in the wind. And suddenly a big, gorgeous blue bird landed right in front of my window on one of those branches. I watched closely as he examined the area, eventually darted down to the ground and came up to the branch. It was beautiful and absolutely made my day. And I never would have seen it if I was scanning facebook on my iPhone.
“We’re so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are.” ― Bill Watterson
I’ve become more relaxed about everything. I was never an overly-anxious person, but I can’t believe how carefree I’ve been since getting pregnant. By living in the moment and trusting that everything does in fact work out in the end, there’s not really any space for worry. That new job I started not long ago at Sommer Sports? It ended up being terrible and I left shortly after finding out we were pregnant. Without spending a day worrying I found a new position that’s more than I could ever ask for. It all works out.
“Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. Then your time on earth will be filled with glory.” ― Betty Smith, Joy in the Morning
It’s a Good Body
I feel at home in my body. My body is a vessel and it’s doing something amazing. I’ve left old ideals in the dust and am embracing these new wider hips and and extra scrunches of fat around my body. Richard loves my pregnant body, too. It’s romantic how in love he is with my changing shape. By appreciating what my body is doing I’ve learned to appreciate it for more than what it looks like.
”We have a secret in our culture, it’s not that birth is painful, it’s that women are strong.” – Laura Stavoe Harm
Making Us Time
Eventually our kids will grow up, move out and create families of their own. When that times comes, I’ll still have Richard. I love what we have now and our bond staying strong is a huge priority as we take on new adventures and challenges. We are making it a point to go on more dates before baby and just connect more about our day. We’re also talking about those little things that bother us… because we know little things can become big things with no sleep and a crying baby. We’re getting to know each other on a deeper level as we talk about our feelings through this process of growing a baby.
You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love. Henry Drummond
Sure, it’s sappy. And yes, it probably has something to do with hormones. I feel like my capacity to love has increased, as well as my desire and patience to do so. As much as pregnancy often brings attention to me in a crowd, growing a child is selfless in many ways. As I loosen the reigns on my own needs and wants, there’s a little more space to give love.
“I don’t know who my grandfather was; I am much more concerned to know what his grandson will be.” ― Abraham Lincoln
Joining the League
I’ve always felt like a kid when talking about having children. Warnings from people who are parents and my own family were endless. We were told to wait, wait, wait. We were told how hard it is. Well, now we’re pregnant! While we’re not parenting yet, we feel like we’ve joined the league in a way and are comfortable with making decisions on how we want to birth, parent and more. Nobody else will be able to do this for us.
“You never understand life until it grows inside of you.” ― Sandra Chami Kassis
Going For It
I am a planner and tend to be very reasonable and conservative when spending money or making plans. I love practicality. Those tendencies led us to a profitable budget that is paying for this baby, but now I’m learning to loosen that grip every now and then, too. This is a fact: our life will not end when we have kids. But we understand things will change, so if there’s something we want to do, the time is now! Since finding out we were pregnant we’ve crossed more off our bucket list than ever before. We’re going to plays, canoeing with alligators, trying new restaurants and taking day trips from coast to coast.
”A grand adventure is about to begin.” – Winnie the Pooh
It’s funny how the things that matter in life are so much more simple than what we may have guessed growing up. I wish I could go back to 17-year-old me, tell her to appreciate the little moments and show her a glimpse at how beautiful her life would be.